I have been eating gluten free for over a year now. I've learned a lot along the way. I decided to put together a list of my favorite things. Some of these tend towards the more "processed" foods. We try to do whole foods and naturally GF stuff more than the replacements. Every once in a while though, a girl needs to eat a cookie, or just open a can of soup for a quick meal.
Disclaimer- I have not been paid by any of these companies, it is all stuff I have actually eaten and liked.
Udi's Gluten Free Snickerdoodles - These are quite possibly the best cookies that I have ever eaten in my life, with or without flour. They are thick and chewy and just all around wonderful.
Herb Ox Bouillon Cubes and Packets - So many soups and gravy mixes contain flour. These babies are great to start a gravy. I use them with Minute Rice as a quick side dish that isn't "just rice". The packets are great to make dip with.
Boar's Head Cold Cuts - If you go to their page they say "We were gluten free long before you thought to ask." I love that.
GF Bisquick - This stuff is magical. I have used it to make pancakes and to bread fish. I also mixed cornmeal with it to make a great corn bread. This is another pantry staple.
Perdue Chicken Tenders - These are a great convenience food. It is rare to find "breaded" foods that are safe to eat. These are in regular rotation around here for busy evenings.
Ore Ida Potato Crowns - These are naturally GF, and another great thing to just throw in the oven quickly for dinners on nights where we run from dance to scouts to Little League.
Schar White Bread - So far this is the best national brand bread that I have tried. There are a couple of local bakeries around that do more artisanal bread and rolls, but this one is good toasted, and makes a nice grilled cheese.
Robert's Pirate Booty - We ate this all the time, even before making the change to be GF. It is a great low calorie snack, and perfect to sate carby cravings.
Cape Cod Potato Chips - Potato chips should be GF, but depending on the flavorings, you have to be careful. All of Cape Cod's are, and they are not cooked in peanut oil, as Utz's are.
Amy's Lentil Soup - This is a terrific, nutritionally dense soup, and great for an easy lunch. Also, it is quite portable, so I tend to keep a can on hand to bring places where there may not be food for me.
Amy's Frozen Dinners - My husband's favorite is the tortilla bowl, and he can appreciate the tamales, even if they aren't his mother's. I myself love the cheese enchiladas and the Mac n cheese. I wouldn't recommend the Cheez version however, unless you have really bad dairy issues or tend towards the vegan. GF, Dairy free Mac n' cheese is pushing the boundaries a bit.
Progresso Clam Chowder - A great soup that is naturally GF, and is found in the regular old aisles of the grocery store.
Progresso French Onion - I usually use this soup as a base in recipes. I used to use Lipton's dry soup in a lot of things, and this is an acceptable GF substitution.
Annie's Gluten Free Mac n' Cheese - I love that there is a boxed version that we can still eat.
Sam Mills Pastas - GF pastas generally have come a long way. Major brands are offering their own, but I still like this one, as it comes in 16 oz. packages for just slightly more than regular pasta costs (other brands reduce the package size, and so I have to make 2 boxes for the family). It is corn based, and perhaps less healthy than some of the brown rice versions, but it is the closest to regular pasta that you can get.
Pillsbury Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough - I was very excited when I heard about this product. There is just nothing quite like a warm chocolate chip cookie. Of course I can make my own, but I love the option of making these quickly on cold winter days to warm up the house. It's also a good thing to keep on hand to bring to a party, so you will have something sweet to eat.
Plated - This is a more of a service and not a product. They put together all the ingredients for a meal for you, and mail it right to your door. Their recipes are based on whole foods, and well over half are naturally GF. The recipes tend towards gourmet, but are simple enough that even my husband (a non-cook) can make them. If you want to give them a try, click here for a good deal.
What are your favorites? What should I add to my list?
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Tuesday, June 10, 2014
Wednesday, June 4, 2014
Early Childhood and Video Games
I was talking to a friend of my mother's recently. She directed some questions to my 5 year old son, and he started chattering on about Minecraft, his latest obsession. I had to explain all that is Minecraft to luddite. The second she heard the words "video game" an audible tsk tsk escaped her lips. I don't think she understands the world of video games today. However, she is not alone as quite a few of my mommy friends don't let their kids have video games of any kind (which is a shame because I could hook them up with my connections). I respect their choices, but I hope that they don't judge me for my choices.
As a disclaimer, my husband makes video games for a living. I personally would consider myself a hardcore-casual gamer, as in when I get into a game that I like, I will generally play to completion. My kids were exposed to video games from a very young age.
When my eldest was 18 months old, she discovered the wonder of the GameBoy, as did we on a 6 hour cross country flight. Shortly thereafter, the iPhone debuted, in all of it's toddler amusing glory. My friends watched with awe as she flipped between aps, showing her favorites, and then showing off pictures, and even took pictures of them.
Now, a half dozen years later, my kids are big into video games. They do spend a lot of time playing games, but much less time watching television. I actually prefer they play games, where they are an active participant, rather than sit passively and watch TV or a movie. I think most parents and educators would be pretty amazed at some of the learning that takes place during game play.
Minecraft is the game of the moment at our house. It is like Legos in the virtual world (and you don't ever step on them!). You can build things, dig in the dirt, raise animals, plant trees, all in a virtual world. There are a couple of different modes in this game. In Survival mode, you start with nothing, and have to craft pick axes and armour and build houses. Then somewhere along the way, they discovered Creative mode, where all possible objects are at your disposal from the get go (no more mining for hours looking for one lousy diamond). My kids had played for several months in Survival mode before they discovered Creative mode. They were all like, how did we not know about this sooner?! Now they build all kinds of crazy huge structures, stores that sell vegetables and lumber, waterfalls from the clouds, lava filled tubs, and huge roller coasters. The level of imagination they display is incredible. There is a magenta carpet path that connects their houses. This game allows for 2 players. When they stray away from each other, they use their maps to find one another. They make up little stories about their villagers. All in all, I feel it is time well spent.
Skylanders will forever be an all time favorite in our house. One of my favorite parts of this game, as a mother and an educator is how they speak the text, and highlight the words as they are spoken. For emerging and struggling readers, this is a fabulous way to support their reading skills. In the most recent iteration with the addition of the Swap Force characters, my kids are learning about combinations and permutations. There are 16 guys, each with 2 pieces, and a total possible 256 combinations. There is a chart in the menu that shows what combinations you have used. My kids have made it their mission to try to get all 256 combinations.
Scribblenauts is yet another great game that game that allows for spontaneous learning. In this game you let your imagination run wild, and insert whatever random object pops into your head into the scene. The trick is, you have to know how to spell the word. After a dozen "Mom how do you spell. . ." I got wise. Sound it out. If they get close, autocorrect with in the game will do the rest and make suggestions. They are all gaining confidence as spellers and as readers by playing this game.
Those are just our 3 favorite games of the moment. Otherwise there are so many skills that are implicitly taught in the video games that they play. For example, you need 50 whatevers to open said area. My son learned to subtract at the ripe old age of 4 because he knew he had 39 whatevers, and needed 11 more to get to 50. Physics is another biggy. Your roller coaster can't make it up the second hill, try making the first hill taller. Can the motorcycle make it through the loop? No? Try going faster. They may not know the terms momentum centripetal force yet, but they get concepts.
In this era, there is so much great stuff out there. It's not all like Grand Theft Auto (but don't get me wrong, I have played GTA and loved it, though my kids have not yet experienced it). Learning and playing are not mutually exclusive as any Kindergarten teacher will tell you.
Thursday, May 29, 2014
Toilet Paper Bride Gone Bad
My girls are now 8 and 5. I have gotten to the point where I no longer micromanage bath time. I occasionally stick my head in to make sure they are cleaning what they are supposed to be cleaning, and not flooding the bathroom. Mostly they are fine, but this past time they bathed together, not fine.
Somehow they got the idea to play toilet paper bride in the shower. They make veils out of the toilet paper, and pretend they are brides. They didn't realize the toilet paper would dissolve when it hit the water. Little pieces of toilet paper were stuck in their hair.
Now, for those that don't know me personally, my girls' hair is the curliest of curly. I should further add, I use Deva Curl's No-Poo, which is more of a conditioner specially designed to care for curls.
My eldest tried to wash out the toilet paper with the No-Poo. This had disastrous results. It basically made a paper mache of little toilet paper bits that clung to their curls.
My older daughter came down the stairs, towel on her head, crying. "You are going to be mad at me" she said.
"What did you do, did you cut it?" I asked.
"No" she sobbed.
"Did you dye it?"
"No" with extra sobbing now.
At this point I thought, it can't be so bad if those more permanent options have been ruled out. I went over to her and snatched off the towel, to reveal her white encrusted curls. She wouldn't tell me what it was despite my prodding and repeated inquires. Then the little one pokes her had down the stairs and I see that there has been a second victim. The little one pipes up "It's toilet paper!" Lovely.
I proceed to try to comb it out. It's not really working. I figure it will be easier if it's dry, so I send them to bed.
The next morning, we work on it, and get some of it out, but each and every individual curl is encrusted in white. My daughters fight us as we attempt to brush it out, and this is taking a lot of time and it's soon to be time for school. My eldest got sent to school with half of her hair still encased in white toilet paper mache. (At least we know what to do for the next crazy hair day!)
I continue to work on the little one, who is not yet in school. I get the idea to flat iron it. Thankfully this worked beautifully. Once her hair is straightened, the little white flakes brush out fairly easily. She was very pleased with her new do.
Meanwhile, at school, the second grade teachers are quite concerned with this new hairdo. They discuss it with her, and she refuses to tell them what it actually is, out of embarrassment. She doesn't know that what they are thinking is actually far worse. The child gets sent to the school nurse for more questioning. I can only imagine what the nurse thinks. She does some more work on the rat's nest of hair and toilet paper, and does a fairly thorough job.
When the bus arrives, I am please to see I don't have too much left to do on her head. This is a good thing, because it is time for dance recital dress rehearsal. Of course these things always happen on days when they are going to be getting pictures of them taken.
So the moral of the story is do not play toilet paper bride in the tub. And don't use conditioning, non-sulfate shampoo to try to wash any foreign objects out of curly hair.
Somehow they got the idea to play toilet paper bride in the shower. They make veils out of the toilet paper, and pretend they are brides. They didn't realize the toilet paper would dissolve when it hit the water. Little pieces of toilet paper were stuck in their hair.
Now, for those that don't know me personally, my girls' hair is the curliest of curly. I should further add, I use Deva Curl's No-Poo, which is more of a conditioner specially designed to care for curls.
My eldest tried to wash out the toilet paper with the No-Poo. This had disastrous results. It basically made a paper mache of little toilet paper bits that clung to their curls.
My older daughter came down the stairs, towel on her head, crying. "You are going to be mad at me" she said.
"What did you do, did you cut it?" I asked.
"No" she sobbed.
"Did you dye it?"
"No" with extra sobbing now.
At this point I thought, it can't be so bad if those more permanent options have been ruled out. I went over to her and snatched off the towel, to reveal her white encrusted curls. She wouldn't tell me what it was despite my prodding and repeated inquires. Then the little one pokes her had down the stairs and I see that there has been a second victim. The little one pipes up "It's toilet paper!" Lovely.
I proceed to try to comb it out. It's not really working. I figure it will be easier if it's dry, so I send them to bed.
The next morning, we work on it, and get some of it out, but each and every individual curl is encrusted in white. My daughters fight us as we attempt to brush it out, and this is taking a lot of time and it's soon to be time for school. My eldest got sent to school with half of her hair still encased in white toilet paper mache. (At least we know what to do for the next crazy hair day!)
I continue to work on the little one, who is not yet in school. I get the idea to flat iron it. Thankfully this worked beautifully. Once her hair is straightened, the little white flakes brush out fairly easily. She was very pleased with her new do.
Meanwhile, at school, the second grade teachers are quite concerned with this new hairdo. They discuss it with her, and she refuses to tell them what it actually is, out of embarrassment. She doesn't know that what they are thinking is actually far worse. The child gets sent to the school nurse for more questioning. I can only imagine what the nurse thinks. She does some more work on the rat's nest of hair and toilet paper, and does a fairly thorough job.
When the bus arrives, I am please to see I don't have too much left to do on her head. This is a good thing, because it is time for dance recital dress rehearsal. Of course these things always happen on days when they are going to be getting pictures of them taken.
So the moral of the story is do not play toilet paper bride in the tub. And don't use conditioning, non-sulfate shampoo to try to wash any foreign objects out of curly hair.
Thursday, May 15, 2014
Tweenage Sexual Education
My eldest daughter just turned 8. We have had the "where do babies" come from talk. The daddy puts a seed in the mommies belly yadayadayada. Lately though she is asking more and more difficult questions, like how do some people have babies before they are married, while others do not. I do my best to be honest with her while still keeping the conversation age appropriate. I hope to do right by her, and prepare her well for the big scary world out there.
I think back to my own "talk" with my parents. As I started to show signs of puberty, my parents asked me if I knew the low down. I had read plenty of Judy Blume, and had a general idea. I answered in metaphors and my father, a scientist, told me I had no clue what I was talking about. Looking back, it may have been overly poetic, but I was at least sort of right. I was handed a copy of "Our Bodies Ourselves" and sent on my way.
While I did have a general sense of the biology behind the female cycle, there was so much that I did not feel prepared for. The Sex Ed both at home and at my Catholic school were all about "DO NOT". There was no help for dealing with the finer subtleties of social interactions with the opposite sex. Like so many women, I had to rely on my peers for advice, not that they were any more knowledgable than myself. I was a source of information for my younger sisters, and I hope they found themselves slightly better prepared for the world than I was.
One thing about my coming of age in the midst of an AIDS epidemic, there was a lot of information about condoms all over the place. "No glove, no love" commercials abounded, and there were many PSAs like this one with Johnny Depp. When I was in 5th grade, the word condemn was a vocabulary word one week. Each week our teacher would have us pronounce the word and venture a guess at a definition. When we got to condemn, the class fell silent. We were all thinking the exact same thing. The teacher was stunned by our silence. She prodded for a few minutes. Surely someone must know this word. Finally, knowing I was a voracious reader and may have an idea, she called on me. I meekly said "condom". Thankfully she burst out laughing so I did not have to proffer a definition for the word. Nearly in tears, she said, "No, they wouldn't put that on a 5th grade vocab list." Honestly though, I think we all could have benefitted from an explanation of what one was, just as we should have been instructed as to the correct spelling of the word condom.
I remember being asked by some older girls if I was a "virgin" when I was about 12. I had no concept of what the term actually meant beyond reference to the Virgin Mother and perhaps the Madonna song. Of course I was one, but I didn't really know what the question meant. I had not even kissed a boy at that point, but given the paradox that Mary can be a virgin and somehow end up pregnant, what sense is the word supposed to make to a kid?
Fast forward 2 or so years to high school. After years in a nice little Catholic School environment, I was thrust into a large, inner-city public high school. The first week of school, an upper classman pinned me against a locker and said to me perhaps the dirtiest thing I have ever heard, even to this day. I had no idea what to do or what to say. This for sure would now be labeled sexual harassment, but back then, I'm not so sure that even if I had said something to someone that anything would have been done. Several male teachers and even the Vice Principal at the time were known for placing advances on young pretty girls.
I eventually found my way, though it took some trial end error, and a failed first marriage to figure it all out. I'm hoping my daughters have an easier time of it. I do hope to arm them with more knowledge than I had, and maybe even some vocabulary words. Otherwise they may turn to their friends, or worse, to the interwebs for answers. God only knows what will come up if they search for certain keywords.
I think back to my own "talk" with my parents. As I started to show signs of puberty, my parents asked me if I knew the low down. I had read plenty of Judy Blume, and had a general idea. I answered in metaphors and my father, a scientist, told me I had no clue what I was talking about. Looking back, it may have been overly poetic, but I was at least sort of right. I was handed a copy of "Our Bodies Ourselves" and sent on my way.
While I did have a general sense of the biology behind the female cycle, there was so much that I did not feel prepared for. The Sex Ed both at home and at my Catholic school were all about "DO NOT". There was no help for dealing with the finer subtleties of social interactions with the opposite sex. Like so many women, I had to rely on my peers for advice, not that they were any more knowledgable than myself. I was a source of information for my younger sisters, and I hope they found themselves slightly better prepared for the world than I was.
One thing about my coming of age in the midst of an AIDS epidemic, there was a lot of information about condoms all over the place. "No glove, no love" commercials abounded, and there were many PSAs like this one with Johnny Depp. When I was in 5th grade, the word condemn was a vocabulary word one week. Each week our teacher would have us pronounce the word and venture a guess at a definition. When we got to condemn, the class fell silent. We were all thinking the exact same thing. The teacher was stunned by our silence. She prodded for a few minutes. Surely someone must know this word. Finally, knowing I was a voracious reader and may have an idea, she called on me. I meekly said "condom". Thankfully she burst out laughing so I did not have to proffer a definition for the word. Nearly in tears, she said, "No, they wouldn't put that on a 5th grade vocab list." Honestly though, I think we all could have benefitted from an explanation of what one was, just as we should have been instructed as to the correct spelling of the word condom.
I remember being asked by some older girls if I was a "virgin" when I was about 12. I had no concept of what the term actually meant beyond reference to the Virgin Mother and perhaps the Madonna song. Of course I was one, but I didn't really know what the question meant. I had not even kissed a boy at that point, but given the paradox that Mary can be a virgin and somehow end up pregnant, what sense is the word supposed to make to a kid?
Fast forward 2 or so years to high school. After years in a nice little Catholic School environment, I was thrust into a large, inner-city public high school. The first week of school, an upper classman pinned me against a locker and said to me perhaps the dirtiest thing I have ever heard, even to this day. I had no idea what to do or what to say. This for sure would now be labeled sexual harassment, but back then, I'm not so sure that even if I had said something to someone that anything would have been done. Several male teachers and even the Vice Principal at the time were known for placing advances on young pretty girls.
I eventually found my way, though it took some trial end error, and a failed first marriage to figure it all out. I'm hoping my daughters have an easier time of it. I do hope to arm them with more knowledge than I had, and maybe even some vocabulary words. Otherwise they may turn to their friends, or worse, to the interwebs for answers. God only knows what will come up if they search for certain keywords.
Wednesday, March 19, 2014
In Defense of the Common Core
I hear a lot of Common Core bashing. My 2nd grader is one of the first to be educated with the Common Core, beginning from Kindergarten. The math has changed from when you were a kid, we are aware. Parents are frustrated. I get it. Not being able to explain things to your 7 year old who doesn't really want to do their math homework, and you don't get it put you in a less than ideal situation.
Half the parents I know posted this video when it came out, as a blow against the Common Core. In case you didn't watch it, here is the gist. There is a math problem. The kids are expected to use a method that the mother in the video deems ridiculous.
Mr.Yamata's class has 18 students.If the class counts around by a number and ends with 90. What number did they count by?
Most reasonable people would simply divide 90 by 18 to get 5. However, in this scenario, the kids are expected to draw 18 circles and make hash marks rather than treat this as a division problem. How ridiculous is this? Turning a one step quickie division problem into a 108 step problem. What is the point of that? Let's throw out all the skills that are being taught and go complain to the school board.
The point of that is it teaches procedural knowledge. It gives them an alternate method to get to the answer. This may not seem important when we are talking about a simple division problem, but what if the problem is more complex?
In an Educational Psychology class I am taking, we were given a seemingly simple problem. Here we are all graduate students. The majority of us have taken statistics in some form. All but 3 of us took the NYS Math Regents Sequence. There were even 2 math teachers in the room. So here is the problem:
You are making a fruit salad. There are 5 fruits you can use - apples, strawberries, grapes, bananas, oranges. The bowl you are using will only hold the salad if you limit it to 3 fruits. How many different combinations are possible?
A. 10
B. 15
C. 20
D. 30
E. 120
The discussion begins. "Don't we use 5! and multiply out 5*4*3*2*1?" "No, you would would do that if the order were important." "I think she is right, but you have to divide it by something." "But what? What do you divide by? Do you remember the formula?"
Then finally someone suggest we write it out. A S G B O. Apple Strawberry Grape and so on.
ASG
ASB
ASO
AGB
AGO
ABO
SGB
SGO
SBO
GBO
So there are 10 combinations. We as graduate students used a process very similar to drawing circles and making hash marks because not one of us remembered the formula to figure out combinations and somehow we got to the right answer. Yes, if we could have recalled the formula it may have been quicker. Does that make our method less valid?
The point of the seemingly ridiculous exercise talked about in the video is to give the kids an alternate way to do the problem. You can't always recall every formula for each problem by wrote. Occasionally you may need to figure something out using a less than ideal method, and that is okay. In this era of high stakes testing, it is important for kids to understand that there may be more than one method to get to the correct answer. You can also use a method like this to double check your work. So please, do all of the 4th grade math teachers a favor and cut them some slack. They are teaching skills that will be useful in a variety of situations, even when you can't remember the formula.
If you are curious the way you would do this problem follows.
5C3

n=5
r=3
(5*4*3*2*1)
(3*2*1)(2*1)
120
(6)(2)
120/12= 10
Half the parents I know posted this video when it came out, as a blow against the Common Core. In case you didn't watch it, here is the gist. There is a math problem. The kids are expected to use a method that the mother in the video deems ridiculous.
Mr.Yamata's class has 18 students.If the class counts around by a number and ends with 90. What number did they count by?
Most reasonable people would simply divide 90 by 18 to get 5. However, in this scenario, the kids are expected to draw 18 circles and make hash marks rather than treat this as a division problem. How ridiculous is this? Turning a one step quickie division problem into a 108 step problem. What is the point of that? Let's throw out all the skills that are being taught and go complain to the school board.
The point of that is it teaches procedural knowledge. It gives them an alternate method to get to the answer. This may not seem important when we are talking about a simple division problem, but what if the problem is more complex?
In an Educational Psychology class I am taking, we were given a seemingly simple problem. Here we are all graduate students. The majority of us have taken statistics in some form. All but 3 of us took the NYS Math Regents Sequence. There were even 2 math teachers in the room. So here is the problem:
You are making a fruit salad. There are 5 fruits you can use - apples, strawberries, grapes, bananas, oranges. The bowl you are using will only hold the salad if you limit it to 3 fruits. How many different combinations are possible?
A. 10
B. 15
C. 20
D. 30
E. 120
The discussion begins. "Don't we use 5! and multiply out 5*4*3*2*1?" "No, you would would do that if the order were important." "I think she is right, but you have to divide it by something." "But what? What do you divide by? Do you remember the formula?"
Then finally someone suggest we write it out. A S G B O. Apple Strawberry Grape and so on.
ASG
ASB
ASO
AGB
AGO
ABO
SGB
SGO
SBO
GBO
So there are 10 combinations. We as graduate students used a process very similar to drawing circles and making hash marks because not one of us remembered the formula to figure out combinations and somehow we got to the right answer. Yes, if we could have recalled the formula it may have been quicker. Does that make our method less valid?
The point of the seemingly ridiculous exercise talked about in the video is to give the kids an alternate way to do the problem. You can't always recall every formula for each problem by wrote. Occasionally you may need to figure something out using a less than ideal method, and that is okay. In this era of high stakes testing, it is important for kids to understand that there may be more than one method to get to the correct answer. You can also use a method like this to double check your work. So please, do all of the 4th grade math teachers a favor and cut them some slack. They are teaching skills that will be useful in a variety of situations, even when you can't remember the formula.
If you are curious the way you would do this problem follows.
5C3
n=5
r=3
(5*4*3*2*1)
(3*2*1)(2*1)
120
(6)(2)
120/12= 10
Tuesday, March 4, 2014
The Rules of Frozen Sheet Music
I grew up playing Disney songs. I had a big thick Disney Songbook that I wore out, and had to replace because I loved it so much. I taught music lessons and often went back to the Disney songbook for various lessons. I would teach Scales and Arpeggios from Aristocats as a fun way to teach modulations. Teaching music from Sleeping Beauty means you are actually teaching Tchaikovsky. "When I see and Elephant Fly" and "Cruella DeVille"are great songs to teach jazz patterns.
When a movie like the Little Mermaid or Beauty and the Beast came out when I was a budding young pianist, one of the best parts was getting the sheet music and learning all of the songs. Many happy hours were spent at the piano learning those songs by heart. So when Frozen came out, I knew that I would be buying the sheet music. Somehow, now as a mother with children, my experience of the music was quite changed.
First, when the book arrived, there had been milk spilled upon it within 5 minutes of it's entry into the house. I should have taken that as an omen. I saw a post from Rants from Mommy Land on the Rules for Singing Frozen. I knew I had to put my own twist on the playing of Frozen songs.
1. There must be a child in my lap as I play anything from Frozen. Playing piano around a child while also sight reading the music can prove challenging. Sitting next to me on a piano bench is not acceptable. Using pedals won't work either.
2. If it were up to me and my usual musical process, I would play the first song in the book, and then play through each one till I got to the end of the book. This cannot happen. I have to play "Let it Go" first. Then there after some in fighting we may finally agreed on "Do You Want to Build a Snowman?"and then "In Summer" could be next. When I try to play "Reindeer are Better Than People" I was met with a chorus of nos.
3. The kids would be happy if I just banged out the melodies for their favorite songs. They really do not care if I play the chords and accompaniment or not. When I try to play intros or bridges they get impatient.
4. If I miss a sharp or flat, they let me know "Mommy, you are not very good." They don't understand that the chromatics and modulations in "Let It Go" are a bit tricky, especially since the song is already starting off in A flat.
5. I am not allowed to sing, ever, even if it is to help them with the words, or to correct their pitch. Which leads me to -
6. Children singing Frozen are never off key, or at least you can't tell them that they are. They can effortlessly sing a song that spans the entirety of 2 octaves, even if it means growling the low notes or screeching the high notes.
7. I may not turn Frozen sing along time into a music lesson, in any way shape or form. Frozen transcends notes and rhythms and any mention of "Peanut Butter" or "Every Good Boy Does Fine" will not be tolerated.
8. I can now only play Frozen songs. Any attempts to play anything other than Frozen are met with booing.
Tuesday, February 11, 2014
A Fairytale Journey
On
November 25th, 2009, I was in a parking lot, waiting for my older son’s
preschool class to be over for the day. Before I had to drag my sleeping
toddler out into the cold, I spent a moment typing on my blackberry the first
line of a story I had floating around in my head. “Much farther north than most
humans would dare settle, December unleashed its relentless fury.” Until that
day, writing as a career was just a far-fetched fantasy. But having one
sentence down was a step I had never been brave enough to take before.
I
didn’t always know that I wanted to be a writer. My experience was quite the
opposite, actually. I never kept a diary as a child. I wasn’t even an avid
reader. I preferred playing outdoors and I survived the long New York winters
with Mario Brothers and Disney princesses. Reading and writing were both chores
that went along with schoolwork.
By
high school, though, I came to realize that my high grades were not due to brilliance,
much to my dismay, but because I could write those thesis papers, expository
essays, DBQs, creative projects, and get “A’s” on top of them. But I never had
a passion for journalism, I despised all study of grammar, and I liked but
didn’t love the “great” literature I was exposed to. And I was raised to be
practical. I wanted to graduate from college and find a job. I was a true child
of the Renaissance, good at everything, phenomenal at nothing, but I had to choose.
So I picked biology as a major.
College
for me was like a day job. I never lived on campus. I would go to class, do the
work, and when I went home, “life” began for the day. Again, writing was just
part of work–lab reports, papers for my electives–and it helped boost my
grades, but the bulk of my achievement was measured with exams.
I
did pretty well in college with biology, so I assumed I had made the right
choice. I never asked myself if I enjoyed the content. I did…enough, I thought.
I would never love science as much as music, art, English, history, or psychology,
but I didn’t see that as a problem. I believed I’d be able to pursue other
interests in my “down time.”
Then
came graduate school. I was doing so much science around the clock that I could
barely stay awake in class. There was no down time. And here’s what happened. While
trying to cram facts, theories based on facts, and theories based on theories
into my head, the information just wasn’t taking root, and the creative side of
my brain kept getting louder and more resentful. If any of my former co-workers
ever looked over at me and thought I was in my own little world, I probably
was.
Thanks Eileen and Mike for your creative
genius/computer wizardry
The
first “book” I imagined was a sci-fi thriller. I don’t remember the details.
After I left school, I had to put the writing idea away for a while. Life
intervened. I had a baby by this point and I was working in a genetics lab full
time. By 9:30 at night, when my near sleepless firstborn FINALLY called it
quits, I was too exhausted to watch television, so writing was out of the
question. But, during those long experiments, my mind kept wandering to the
idea that fairies seemed underrepresented in the fantasy world. And I knew why.
Tinker Bell, circa 2007, was the fairy world representative, and what appeal
did she have to an adult audience? Not much. And so, Christopher and Joseph
MacRae were born. I had the basic storyline in my head for two years–two
modern-day American brothers who believe they’re human, their missing fairy father,
his evil fairy-queen ex-wife, and Cassiopeia, the fairy princess who thickens
the plot in every way.
After
I wrote the first line of Fairy Tale,
the project idled until after the New Year. But then, thanks to improved
cellphone technology, I could write anywhere, anytime. The true birth of
“Pyxis” began in the microscopy “caves” of Skidmore College. By the third
chapter, there was no turning back. I woke up before sunrise, went to bed late,
and was chased in my nightmares by the very villains I had created…and they’re
pretty nasty. In other words, the story wouldn’t rest, and essentially, it wrote
itself. By August 2010, my rough draft was complete, and I was stoked. It was
one of those “best day ever” feelings, something I had never experienced in all
my years as a scientist.
After
that, I tweaked, revised, trimmed and fattened the manuscript, and then had
some family members help me out. I considered their feedback and revised it
again. When I decided it was “finished,” I attempted to find an agent, and the
process was heartbreaking, especially after one of my first letters received a
promising response. But nothing ever came of it. And the rejections letters
kept piling up at a time when my husband and I really needed a lucky break. I
was also looking for a job again, in science. I had two major interviews, but
they led to more rejection. By my thirtieth birthday (April, 2011), I was at an
all-time personal and career low.
Fortunately,
my husband received a life-changing promotion at his new job. So we moved out
of New York and left some of our problems behind. My career issues didn’t exactly
go away, but the pressure to find employment was off. So I continued writing–I
never really stopped–and I finished The
Rising Star, the second book of the Fairy
Tale series.
By
2012, I was pregnant (again), and spent my “free” time editing and entering
book one, Winter’s Bite, into a few
contests. Rejection then took on a new name. It was called “feedback.” It’s one
of those things new writers can’t get enough of, until they do, and then they
wish they could give it back in the form of some very choice words. Was it all
bad? No. There was a fair amount of positive or constructive feedback. However,
there were a few judges out for blood, and I overwhelmed myself with their
reviews at a time when I was emotionally and hormonally unstable. The
experience culminated in a disastrous meltdown at a Friendly’s in Bennington, VT.
Luckily, my sister came to me with the idea of this blog at the perfect time.
For my health and wellbeing, I needed a lightweight distraction from the
series. So I spent the summer before Emily’s birth blogging about my
pregnancy.
Emily Rose: A Pregnancy Story
Once
life plus one stabilized to some extent, I revisited the contest feedback. I
took what I could from it and ignored what I disagreed with. Then I embarked on
the most ambitious revision project to date. The work was tedious and more
challenging than I expected, and early on, I had doubts the corrections were
necessary, or even possible in some cases. The point of view of my book
(omniscient) wasn’t wrong, per se, but it didn’t meet “industry standards”
(third person, limited). But I kept at it, sentence by sentence, chapter by
chapter, and ultimately fixed what I once worried wasn’t fixable. By the fall of
2013, I called the project “finished,” once again, and despite my initial
qualms, it was better than ever.
So
why did I continue with a path so full of rejection, self-doubt, and heartache?
Why didn’t I just get a paying job, go back to school, or succumb to
the mommy-brain-drain powers of Dr. Oz
and Days of Our Lives? The answer is
simple. Because in every Fairy Tale
character there’s a piece of me–the brooding loner, the analytical smartass,
the optimist who refuses to let darkness prevail. And so their story deserves
to be told…
And
while Fairy Tale: Winter’s Bite is in
the hands of an editor, I’ve been wearing in my sexy sweatpants, firing up my
Keurig with the dedication of an addict, and cranking up the heat both real and
imaginary, all so I could take a trip back in time to Gloucester, Massachusetts,
1979. There, I met up with Scott MacRae, the patriarch of my fairy dynasty, and
the one who started it all–an epic fantasy war and a forbidden love affair with
a human–and I let him tell his own story in Disgrace.
It’s free on Wattpad, http://www.wattpad.com/story/11656358-disgrace.
You don’t need to join the site to read it, but feel free if you’re ready to
catch the new wave in indie publishing. Plus, I’m always on the market for new
groupies J.
For
more information about the Fairy Tale
series, check out my new author page on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/pages/Alicia-Britton-Author/351622061645290). In the “about”
section, I’ve posted a summary of Winter’s
Bite and a brief excerpt. Please stop by. Let me know what you think. And
go ahead. Be a fan. I dare you!
Lastly,
I want to thank my dedicated readers–Carissa, Eileen, Greg, Katie, Steve,
Brooke, Janet, my editor, as well as Leo and Mike for taking a look at my
synopsis. Without you, Fairy Tale
wouldn’t be as grammatically correct (Carissa), romantically succinct (Eileen),
action packed (Greg), or logical (Steve). And thanks to all my future readers,
like you. Anyone who has read this blog post in its entirety must have some
interest and you are certainly worthy of mention!
Best,
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